Archive for October 2013
What Is So Fasinating About Sex?
This is my fifteenth post
since I resumed blogging. So far I have
posted about my kid, my thoughts on feminism, my future plans, my marriage, Angelina
Jolie and my challenges with depression. And I have also blogged about sex – just
one post out of fourteen. Okay, last week's post is partly about sex but only partly so it really doesn't count. But for some reason I can’t understand, this one post about sex has
received the most traffic on this blog. What’s baffling is that I didn’t even
write anything sexual in that post. I just tinkered around about whether to
resume my usual column or not. So, it had to have been the title that drove all
those people to it. And yet I’m the one who just won’t stop writing about sex J.
Anyway, since you’re here,
maybe you can help me out with something. I did start writing for the newspaper
I blogged about. The thing is I seem to have run out of ideas on what to write
about. So far, I have written about pornography – (am all for it by the way, so
long as it’s in moderation and one is over 18 years old) I feel it has its uses
and if more men want to get their babes into watching it with them, then porn
needs to be marketed differently. I have also written about orgasm – there are
a thousand and one reasons why women fake it, and a mutually satisfying
relationship requires partners negotiating their wants. I have written about
condom – who should do the buying? And finally, cheating – what actually is
cheating? **
Basically, these are the four
topics I have written about. Seems pretty small compared to the, I suppose,
infinitely endless things there are to write about sex. But, for whatever ever
reason, I can’t think about what I should write next. What’s more, the paper
has gone print, so I suppose I will be judged as a journalist not merely an
untrained columnist. So, yeah, am a bit apprehensive.
Nevertheless, here are a
few thoughts playing in my head:
- · Issues men have in sex. I’m not a man, so that’s going to be tricky. Apart from premature ejaculation (a topic that sounds a bit more scientific that I’d like), I can’t say I know what those issues are really. Okay, I know they have performance anxiety, just don’t know how that manifests. So, if you’re a man reading this, I need your help.
- · Gender roles in sex – like, who initiates? How much one should want it? Why is it that it is often girls who often judge ‘sluts’ the harshest? All these I could write about, but don’t know the angle to present my argument and whether I have sufficient examples to support my case. Your thoughts on these would help give me a more rounded perspective.
That’s
all I have. So, as you can see I need help with this. Send me an email (ugochime@writeme.com) with suggestions
and your thoughts. I would greatly appreciate it.
** N.B: this post was written ahead of time but scheduled, to allow me
attend to other aspects of my life. By the time it's posted, I may have already published more columns for the newspaper than is mentioned here.
Ciao.